Quit… Not to Quit

This Story is said by our Beloved “Guruji – Shri Ajit Telang”.

One day I decided to quit…I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality. .. I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with God.

“God”, I said. “Can you give me one good reason not to quit?”

His answer surprised me… “Look around”, He said. “Do you see the fern and the bamboo?”

“Yes”, I replied.

When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. He said. “In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. “I would not quit.” He said. “Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant. .. But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive.

“I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle”

He said to me. “Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots.” “I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. “Don’t compare you to others  …”

He said. “The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern … Yet, they both make the forest beautiful.” Your time will come, “God said to me.” You will rise high”

How high should I rise?.. I asked. How high will the bamboo rise?” He asked in return. “As high as it can? ” I questioned. ” Yes. “He said, “Give me glory by rising as high as you can. “

I left the forest and bring back this story.

I hope these words can help you see that, “God will never give up on you.. Never regret a day in your life. Good days give you happiness Bad days give you experiences both are essential to life. A happy and meaningful life requires our continuous input and creativity.  It does not happen by chance. It happens because of our choices and actions. And each day we are given new opportunities to choose and act and, in doing so, we create our own unique journey. “No work is insignificant. All labour that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence.”

Friends Talk like this…

This is a very good thought share by “Arohi” which i would like to share with all my friends.

My all Friends are very important in my LIFE …

Below thoughts show how the World of Friendship is free from all Formalities. Here there is no expectations, no explanations & no EGOES.

Friendship is not about “I m sorry “  its about “abbe  teri  galti hai “
 
Friendship is not about “I m there for u” or “I missed u “  it’s about “kahan marr gaiye sab..   “
 
Friendship is not about “I understand “  its about “Nalayak sab teri wajah se hua“
 
Friendship is not about “I care for u  “  its about “kamino tumhe chhod ke kahan jao “
 
Friendship is not about “I m happy for ur success “ its about “chal party de … “ 
 
Friendship is not about “R u coming for outing tomorrow “ its about “ nautanki nahi, hum kal bahar ja rahe hai “

Friendship is not about “Get well soon “ its about “ Chal Nautanki Bandh aur Kaam Surru… “

Friendship is not about “All the best for ur career“ its about “ bahut hua, abhi toh switch mar yarrrr“

Friendship is not about “Listenining Carefully” it about “Baandh kar teri roj ki Bakwaas”

Friendship is not about “Choice” it about “Abe tere paas koi Option hai kya…???”

Friendship is not about “Thank You” it about “Abe Hak hai …”

Friendship is not about “Helping” it about “Chal Dosti Nibhane ka time a gaiya hai…”

“It is truely said … Dosto ki ek Khaas Jagah hoti hai… in my life i have experienced it..”

Dedicated to my ALL FRIENDS…

PERCEPTION … something to think about

Hi, Just to share with you what we have been missing in our daily rush life.

This is a sharing by Kalpita Keer one of my friend and a Reiki Sadhak…

Washington, DC Metro Station on a cold January morning in 2007.

The man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approx. 2 thousand people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After 3 minutes a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule.
 
4 minutes later:
the violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk..
 
6 minutes:
A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.
 
10 minutes:
A 3-year old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent, without exception, forced their children to move on quickly.

 
45 minutes:
The musician played continuously.  Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace.  The man collected a total of $32.

1 hour:
He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.
 
No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people’s priorities. The questions raised: in a common place environment at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?
 
 One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:  If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made…. How many other things are we missing?     

 

A lot of friendships do get transformed after marriage. We explore why…

(yesterday November 16, 2009 @ 10.17 PM – When Shreya calls me ~ I got a thought to write an Article ~ based on our Conversation)

Accept it. Once you get into relationship of Marriage it’s obvious that you get Change and it is also observed that friendships will change. You cannot be the same person who can attend calls at any hour of the day or slip out for a sip of coffee when your friend is down and out.

All because marriage is definitely a lifestyle change. And it is not only married couples who try to adjust to the new environment, but even friends find it difficult to adjust to the new Change.

Me & My Friend Shreya, we are pals right from our School years. But when Shreya got married, I thought our days of friendship will now lose its charm, I felt insecure, I started to distance myself from her because she was busy with her new life and I started missing our good old constant talk. Now we meet once a month. It doesn’t matter to me much now.” When she got married, I initially found it difficult because I was pretty much dependent on her for everything and then I saw her going out with her husband, new family and social outings. We never got “our time”. But I later realized that it happens and didn’t let these new changes affect our friendship, this credit goes to the Shreya & her Idealist Attitude towards our relationship and just because of her today I am good friend with Prashil (her Husband). We three are company today. She was dealing not only with a different social status, but also a plethora of other issues that a newly wed couple faces. Since I was closest to her I shared everything with her without realizing that she was facing her own difficulties in accepting the new world. But I didn’t let her go. We still talk.

After when we fininh our conversation I remember few lines of My Friend Sameer Parikh, Psychologist who explains once that, “People need company and when they see their company drifting apart, it is obvious that a feeling of rejection sets in. This is especially difficult for single friends who do not have a huge friends circle or seek a lot of comfort in you and this is not the case only with the same gender friends but it gets even trickier with friends of the opposite gender.

Before Shreya’s Marriage I always had an impression that friendships change after one get married and have kids? It’s true, and it’s the result of a combination of factors that include a decrease in free time and a shift in priorities. Many a times I faced with tension when it comes to friendships outside my other relationship.

Shreya always stand to me a Person whom I Admire a lottt  everytime in every Aspects, Yesterday also she answer the thing may be knowingly or unknowingly which was contineously hamering me from last couple of weeks. Again yesterday the same thing happen when we were talking, she asked “People generally get change after Marriage” it was somehow not accepted to me as Shreya & Prashil Marriage had taught me that understanding and accepting each other’s differences is the key to nurturing the friendship within your own relationship and developing friendships with others. Friendships provide support, keep us from feeling lonely, and make us well-rounded people.

For Shreya & Me ~ ofcourse maintaining a good friendships takes time and effort. As our life progresses, we have divided our precious time among an ever-growing circle of people, which leaves less time for both of us. For Shreya Priorities always changes rather shifts. She had always set boundary of Commitment towards a relationship whether it is a close friend or a family member. She has always valued our friendship even though we can’t be able to hang out as often.

We both have accepted that our friend’s lives are and will change too and we are always ready for it…

The most beautiful Discovery we both have make is that we grow seperately without growing apart because of our Difference of Opinion.

This whole Article talks about Changes in Friendship after Marriage, ofcourse changes do come and I think changes should come with a level of Maturity & Responsibility but very few can able to Maintain the Relationship of Friendship till soo long. If the level of Maturity and Understanding of Relationship also moves with the passage of time it is very easy to maintain a relationship but if suppose a person resist to Change then it will be difficult to sustain a relationship for a prolonged period of time.

This article is dedicated to Shreya & Prashil who includes friends like us as a company in their Journey of Life.

Today in Morning

TODAY IN MORNING (November 11, 2009)

 Good Morning!!!

Today’s morning was very pleasant, it seems not too cold and not too lazy, it was complete fresh morning as seems like I was in some other world. This is something what I have experience and would like to share with you and I request viewers should read at least once and make sure you read to the end….

 It is one of the most-requested columns I’ve written”.

 This morning I spend only 180 mins i.e. 2.5 hours; in this time I realized that Life isn’t a fair to me some moments, but it’s still good to me always..today I said SORRY for all those things I have done to others knowingly and unknowingly and forgive all those things happen to me also because I thought Life is too short why to waste time in hating anyone. In this just small time I have lived my whole life and enjoy the each moments as if now I am not gonna live anymore. Peace of Today’s Morning teaches me that forget the PAST it won’t screw up the PRESENT.

 Being a working person, I am always dedicated to my JOB and give importance & priority to my work first rather than my family and friends. But today’s Morning make me feel that My JOB won’t take care of me when I’ll be sick, I need to spend some quality time with my family & friends.

 Silence of Early Morning teaches me that wining on every Argument is not necessary every time, many a times we have to “AGREE TO DISAGREE”. As in Professional life we go through many useless Arguments in order to satisfy our so call EGOES.

 Ofcourse I want to forget my PAST as I said previous, but I want to go back to the memories of my CHILDHOOD because it’s never too late to have a happy childhood again. When it comes to going after what you LOVE in LIFE, don’t take NO for an ANSWER. Once My Friend Shreya share one very good thing with me i.e. DO or DIE is an old saying, now it’s time for Doing before we DIE. So I want to enjoy everything before actually I DIE. I don’t want to go from this EARTH with any REGRETS. I want to pray, I want to burn candles, want to eat my favorite food today, I want to wear new clothes & don’t want to wait for any special OCCASION as “TODAY ~ IN MORNING” teach me that “TODAY IS SPECIAL”.

 Many a things matter in my LIFE especially my JOB, CARRIER, FAMILY, FRIENDS, IMAGE IN THE SOCIETY, but TODAY just for two & half hours I Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘’IN FIVE YEARS, WILL THESE MATTERS?’’. At the end Delight of the Environment teach me to choose only LIFE, I forgive everything & everyone, I have stop auditing my LIFE, I STARTED TO SHOW UP & MAKE UP THE MOST OF IT NOW.

  “No man in this world is rich enough to buy his own PAST.
Enjoy each moment before it gets beyond reach.”

 I pray to GOD, everyday when i get up ~ my every Morning should be SPECIAL like TODAY.

 

No Title

“DREAMING IS YOUR RIGHT BUT PROVING IS YOUR DESTINY”.                                                                                                                                                                         (This is not the title of this Article – it is just a line told to me once by a Lady.)

 If I sit to count such influential figures then we will have no empty bag left of such examples. Many a times infact most of times we talk to those people who are successful in any terms, but here this article talks about those people who persist for achievements.

I don’t know how our Society defines “Success & Achievements”. Here this Article is focusing on those people who are left out in this category of Successful. Few people I know like ~ My Mother, My Friend (Shreya), My Aunty (next to my Mom – Shreya’s Mom) and many other people out of my knowledge who are spending their life or whole life for our betterment or infact investing their whole time in making us a Successful person.

 What give me a thought to write on this when I realized how my MOM, people of her AGE & SHREYA (friend) working hard for us forgetting their GASTRONOMIC ACHIEVEMENTS for fulfilling our demands.

 It takes time but last not least I realized that this people are doing a great job. Through this people I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration was actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living which is right now I am enjoying. They don’t think what they get, but they become ~ a Daughter, Friend, Wife, Mother what is expected from them time to time and they genuinely contribute… these all gives meaning to their as well our lives.

 Most of the people have no idea of the giant capacity they have inner built, we can immediately command on them whatever our demands are and they have to focus on all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives forgetting their wishes or demands. Once if we silently realized than we will understand how true it is, that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year – and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade. The basic difference among us and this people is that we try to know what to do and they actually do what they know.

 When I look at them I feel that still I have not reached to their level. They silently achieve so many things by themselves without earning any money or fame or publicity. Their Achievements are countless ofcourse we are not awarding them for this but the fact is they are so highly valued people who don’t required any award because we people with so called label of Success are less successful or infact no comparison with them in comparison to their grand achievement and fact is we are awarded with such People, I am very lucky to have such awarding people in my Life.

 “This Article is purely dedicated to all those Mothers, my Friend and women who are investing their lives for their own ones without expecting any compensation for that. This article doesn’t contain any title because I don’t find any appropriate title. Viewers can suggest me some good Title appropriately suitable to this Article.”

Overtaking

OVERTAKING

OVERTAKING, word when strike to our ears the first thing comes to our mind ~ is about driving in full speed and crossing those vehicle who are ahead to us. But here Overtaking is not to go beyond the speed and surpass the vehicles. Here I have used this word for sharing one of my experiences on LIFE. As it is always said to us that LIFE is a journey …and we had to move in journey ahead without stopping at any place.

I would like to share one of my very good experiences of my inner conscious level (I make it clarification that my inner conscious level is not that much strong). Every Person on this earth gets confused somehow at some point (may be some exception can be there who are firm what are they doing and what they are gonna do without any confusion); well but I am not exception, I am very confused person. I always stuck into the situations where I have to choose one from two (asusual typical options). I always ask GOD, why he brings me to such situations as he knows well that I am very confused person.

Ok coming to my sharing ~ Once a very good day (i will tell it a very good day because i learn a lesson on that day) I was going to my office in early morning, asusual I was driving my Activa with my original speed (I drive my Vehicle very fast) that day I was in full mood of driving with same speed and ofcourse OVERTAKING the vehicles coming to my way. I have Overtake two buses one from right side and as per my typical style one from wrong side. When it comes to my next OVERTAKING I got confused from which side do I overtake so that I can cross the Bus and move ahead to the Plain Road where I can drive smoothly, at that time I don’t know what happen to me I just slow down my Speed and for few minutes I drive behind that BUS and just a next minute I got the way and I crossed the BUS without taking any RISK of OVERTAKING.

This teaches me a very … very Big Lesson of my LIFE. After that day I sit alone and try to analyze myself that why I drive the vehicle with full speed and overtake the vehicle coming to my way. I ask myself one question that where I am running and for what I am running for, what I really wants to ACHIEVE… do ACHIEVEMENTS meant to me is a SPEED or Crossing people coming to my WAY or WHAT ? That incidence make me realize one thing in LIFE that whether it is a School or College or Professional Life or Social Life or any where … Overtaking is not the solution only thing is to slow down the SPEED and wait for the CHANCE. SLOW DOWN doesn’t mean STOP ~ that day also, I have just slow down my Vehicle I have not change my PATH ~ I was just on it and waiting for the BUS to move. I found that I was taking many RISKS in my LIFE which were actually not worth taking.

GOD teach me a lesson through my inner conscious that there are no OPTIONS (options should be positive) and there are only SMOOTH ROADS what we called OPPORTUNITIES and when some VEHICLES what we called BARRIERS comes to our way we just have to slow down our SPEED and be on the PATH and wait for the OPPORTUNITY ….we will surely reach our WAY what we called DESTINATION.

The reason behind the title “OVERTAKING” is that, sometimes in OVERTAKING we miss the RIGHT OPPORTUNITY and MET WITH AN ACCIDENT.

 

“SUCCESS IS A MEASURE AS DECIDED BY OTHERS.                                                                                                                                                                                                               SATISFACTION IS A MEASURE AS DECIDED BY YOU”

 

 

 

 

Sambharna

SAMBHARNA, (June 20, 2008 (Friday), 09.31 PM)

“Sambharna” the word is said by my Friend Shreya, Sambharna means a collection of memories… memories can be in any form or state or i can say that whether short or long or with any person, it doesnt matter, it can be good or it can be bad also.

Once upon a time it was told to me that memories may be good or bad but it always bring tears in the eyes when it is remembered…i agree to it. But “Shreya” always say this, ”we will Cherish the Memories of our ~ rest to the life”; this brings a new idea towards the life. I have never thought i can Cherish the Memories also, I always thought that once which has pass means it has gone forever. But she teach me how we can store our memories and enjoy it.

I have choose this title because this was the first word who give me idea to write something, I always write but never share as i m very introvet. This word gave me chance to change myself and express myself to the world.

“Just like others, I also dream for a friend ~ but never thought of how that person would be (thanx to GOD) because I have never expected that ~ what a friend mean to me ~ may be thats why when I got my FRIEND in real ~ I have expected a lottt from her (i am sorry for this SHREYA). 

I can never believe that DREAM comes true ~ untill i met SHREYA… ofcourse at first meeting I have never expected that she is the only person who can be my BEST BUDDY ~ it took time, but during this period one thing help me a lotttt to identify or rather realize that YES! she is the only one ~ I was looking for and that thing is “PATIENCE”.

so far as my NATURE is concern I dont have PATIENCE & also I am very shortTh TEMPOR but somehow when it comes to SHREYA, I behave totally oppostive to my darker side of NATURE… I listen her so PATIENTLY and I never get angry on her inspite of that sometimes she teased me a lottt.

Its not like I dont have FRIENDS except SHREYA… infact if I count, then it will cross the figures in double. But some people carry such vibration if call which attracts us. She from beginning attracts me ~ may be her SIMPLICITY or her SENSITIVITY ~ i dont know it can be anything else or all. But she always attracts me.  Many of my friends have asked me, why I admire SHREYA; for years, my answer to this question was that each person has their own definition of what inspiration or admiration means to them, this still holds true. My each friend’s essence is unique. But SHREYA as a person consciously explores her inner terrain; she will create her own definition of what inspiration means to me & people around her.

I would like to share one quote with all viewers, “Always ask GOD what you DESERVE rather than what you DESIRE, because may be your DESIRES are few but you DESERVE a lotttt…!!!” ..for me it was just a thought but when I met SHREYA it become a REALITY for me…coz than I got the answer from GOD what I DESERVE..